labingi

It might not be common (we're apparently 1%) but I know exactly what you mean.

I've always been oblivious to anything like that, seeing people as people and gender as irrelevant. Apart from not being thin, I'm with you on all of this, comfy androgenous clothes and all. I think men may have flirted but I just haven't realised. I've occasionally been told that some male or other fancied me but I never had any idea.

I've only recently realised that I'm aro-ace and Greg is also on the ace spectrum, but not aro. He likes romantic gestures so I try to figure out some for him.

Because I like to wear makeup, which started around age 12 because I was born without eyebrows and wanted to look normal, people may have thought that was for the male gaze, but it's to please myself and to feel more confident.

I've rarely been hassled on the street, and I used to think it was because my mother taught me early that dogs scent fear (I was afraid of them as a kid till we got a puppy) and I just carried that over to humans. I've travelled around the world with almost no problems, and I wonder if it's because I don't give off any unconscious cues.

BTW I only just found out that "Netflix and chill" doesn't mean watching our favourite shows with a cup of tea. Oy. I'm also now suspecting that the sexual attraction depicted in books and on screen that I thought was ridiculously exaggerated, might not be. I'm so glad my life is simple and and uncomplicated by hormones hijacking my brain. Being ace is ace!