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Nico ([personal profile] vilakins) wrote in [personal profile] labingi 2022-08-09 11:36 pm (UTC)

Because I am so, so very tired of being erased as a friendship bonder (someone whose most intimate relationships are based on friendship not sexual attraction). The very old, very Freudian idea that any intimacy, intensity, or even physicality in a relationship must be sexual is poison.

Absolutely! I've been shocked and angry when friends assumed I was having affairs with the men I was friends with, or with the women I flatted with (roomed with?) for a time. Friendship is hugely important to me, and the rejection of it by so much or our culture is a cause of the widespread loneliness being reported these days. My fanfic has always promoted friendship as being compelling and important in the characters' lives.

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